A Challenge

I think that it’s safe for me to say that we undervalue and under appreciate our friends. Especially the significance of new friends and what kind of perspective they can give to your life. Most people would instantly disagree or resent the idea that they aren’t the perfect friend and to an extent that reaction could be validated, but then I would ask them to take a moment and think if there’s anybody in their lives right now that they feel doesn’t give them back everything that you give them. And if the answer is yes, then would it be so audacious to say that you might be that person who floods into someone’s mind if they were asked that same question? Making new friends isn’t nearly as scary for a lot of people because they don’t think that they really want to connect with someone on anything more than a superficial level. I mean it starts from an extremely early age and I remember facebook statuses, of all things is what Made me realize the gravity of the situation. All the “ lets hang out sometime” or he “ hit me ups” were as hollow as, or if not more than the people who would post them just to see the one or two people who they actually wanted to like or comment. Which again is the problem, to inherently want the affection or attention of someone who doesn’t equally reciprocate, but we still want it. I’m guilty of it as well, and I think the reason is that it’s not so much speaking to our character when we do these sort of things but to the sense of security we feel in that those who already love and adore us will continue to do so, so we hunt for what’s next. What potential candle can be lit, or in most instances flicker and waste away because in the end it really isn’t what we wanted. Most of the time we don’t really know why we do the things that we do, well I take that back. We don’t always have, or use the courage or the emotional intelligence it takes to really dive past the surface to know why we would want the attention of someone who might empathize with someone they talked to in a grocery store checkout line more than they do with us. I just want to challenge everybody to make a new friend, preferably someone who has the ability to actually hurt your feelings, to make you text first, so you realize that wanting to talk to someone all the time, wanting them to be who you laugh with is, the epitome of friendship, because somewhere in our heads we know that the people we are manifesting all of our attention towards isn’t doing anything out of spite, we are doing so out of fear because the worst thing that could happen is that we want someone in our lives and the only reason that they leave or the friendship dissipates is because of simply you, and them. Just challenge yourself, because an old friend or a new friend, but especially a good friend Could open up an entire world, and who wouldn’t want that?